Emotions are usually emo-shun. We get "negative emotions.” However, emotions are neither positive nor negative, it is usually trying to convey something to us.
However, since we don't have a clear vocabulary we get into stress overdrive that doesn't help. So here is the emotions game, that will develop your emotional well being, be emotionally regulated, and feel a sense of empowerment. It is what good mental health and life is all about. We validate our emotions, rather than expecting others too, who may not be able to and this leads to further emotional distress.
Neuroscience says that if we label the emotion effectively, we immediately release it. Try this out with self, friends, partner, and your kids.
We at Safe Space, have The big dream is for people to experience a life free of emotional pain. The aim is to enable people to understand their pain and make sense of it, in order to emotionally regulate, heal, and lead happier lives. We believe by understanding and acknowledging what we have gone through, we can begin to develop an understanding of ourselves, accept ourselves, and begin healing. All games are rooted in research of neuroscience and psychology.
When distress occurs:
1. If you are experiencing distress layout the cards and aim to identify the exact emotion. Label it.
2. Ask yourself: Why am I feeling this? What happened? What are my thoughts? How can I be kind to myself?
3. Journal to the emotion: Write a letter to the emotion
4. Identify patterns in your emotions, they are saying something to you.
Daily for emotional balance:
1. Do an emotional check in with yourself three times a day (set an alarm)
2. Follow the above questions
3. Also, ask yourself "what do I need?"
4. Address the need
With Friends and Partner:
1. Follow the above steps, facilitate and guide the person on the steps
With children: when your child is distressed, it is critical to address their emotions with kindness, compassion, with attunement and care. Else, the child will become too afraid to "feel" emotions as they grow up. It is important to be consistent with this in order to create a secure connection with your child for them to grow emotional resilience. Ages 1 and up
With your child:
1. Show the child the cards and label and explain the meaning of the main emotions: Happy, Sad, Angry, Scared, and add to their vocabulary as they grow
2. When distress, ask them to pick the emotion
3. Ask: What happened? Why might they be feeling this way? What do they need?
4. Teach them self soothing, by holding them and assuring them that their emotions are valid and they are safe and loved no matter what they feel.