We believe we are entrenched in our values, which is key, but also when asked to articulate them, we struggle. Have we ever really sat down and identified our core values and therefore who we are at the core.
Values are who we are, and our behavior is in accordance with them. Brene Brown’s research on vulnerability suggests that we have “suffering” when we don’t live by our values, and the gap between who we are and who we want to be exists. We go into people pleasing, fights, isolation and are driven by being validated by others.
The aim is to have deep unconditional self-regard and self worth, and to stand for who we are through our values and behavior. Else, we might feel this endless loop of getting external validation that leads to emotional distress when we don’t achieve it and we keep trying to change and become what everyone else wants us to be. Be yourself!
The Key to a healthy relationship with a partner is when we have aligned values, or certain overlapping values. Play this with your partner, spouse to be for an ever-lasting bond of togetherness.
1. Choose 20 values from this list
2. Bring it further down to 6
3. Identify your top two
4. Keep a journal for a month, daily listing behaviors that are aligned to the values or misaligned
5. If misaligned, change behavior consciously, or take on a new value as that chosen one may not be your true value.
Playing it with your growing children, also allows you to understand values that are unique to them as individuals. It will allow your child to have resilience and self-worth, and allow you to connect with your child for who they are and respect their views and choices as individuals.
We at Safe Space, have the big dream is for people to experience a life free of emotional pain. The aim is to enable people to understand their pain and make sense of it, in order to emotionally regulate, heal, and lead happier lives. We believe by understanding and acknowledging what we have gone through, we can begin to develop an understanding of ourselves, accept ourselves, and begin healing. All games are rooted in research of neuroscience and psychology.